I’m not going to give you a bunch of garbage advice on what to do to pick up girls. Honestly, there is no magic bullet for getting more dates or making women fall all over you. Like pretty much everything else, you only need a few things to get more girls into your life: courage, practice, and determination.

Chances are, you have a good idea of what it takes to walk the walk with girls but you don’t know how you can make it happen for yourself. You’re either doubting yourself or you’re convinced that girls won’t go for you if you put yourself out there, which is pretty much the same thing. Let me give you a little piece of advice to prove you wrong. Go into any coffee shop, dance club, or bar, and take a look at the guys you see. Guaranteed, you will see at least one guy who looks like a complete tool with a beautiful girl by his side.

You might think he’s rich, and maybe he is. But there’s an even better chance that he just has what it takes to spend time around girls in ways that they enjoy (imagine that) and get them hooked on his personality. And guys, it’s honestly not that hard. You have to know how girls think and what they want to hear from you.

First, girls want you to be confident. More than anything else, girls naturally respond to guys who are sure in their shoes. They can’t help themselves. Confidence is a sign of strength on a very deep level – a primitive level. Girls can’t help but pick up on it and be attracted to you because confidence is a sign that you know what you’re doing and you’re able to provide for her and protect her. It’s also a sign that you’re not desperate for her and you’re just testing the waters to see what she’s like. Girls are attracted to you when you let them know they’re not the center of your universe. It makes them want to show you that they actually are the center of your universe. Simple biology, simple psychology.

Second, girls want to see that you’re comfortable with your own body. It doesn’t matter if you’re a ripped bodybuilder or a chubby dork with glasses. What matters to girls is that you’re not self-conscious. That’s the last thing a girl wants to see. Why? Because it’s an immediate tip-off that you’re not confident with yourself. When you see a fugly dude with a beautiful girl on his arm, take a good look at the guy’s body language. He’s not fidgeting nervously, he’s not stuttering his words. He’s calm, relaxed, and sure of himself. If he wasn’t, I guarantee you his beautiful girl would drop him flat and look for someone who was sure of themselves.

Guys, body language is everything. Scientific studies have proven that 70% of the way a person is perceived by another person when they are talking is from body language, and another 20% is how a person sounds when they speak. That means that only 10% of the way girls perceive you depends on what you actually say. Now do you understand why guys who are dumb as rocks can pick up girls who look like they were in Maxim? It’s not what they’re saying that counts. It’s how they’re saying it and how they carry themselves that makes the difference.

The third thing is a quick wit and a sense of humor. Guys, never forget: girls just want to have fun. You need to show them a good time. You need to lighten up, enjoy the moment, and let yourself be fun. Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Let her see that you know what it means to have a good time. It’s not hard to do. Step out of your comfort zone and enjoy the moment.

Don’t take yourself so seriously that you can’t make fun of yourself. Put yourself in her shoes and think about what will make her laugh. If you don’t like to dance, tough. She doesn’t care if you can’t dance. She just wants to dance, so dance. If you’re not good at cracking jokes, then start working on it. Start listening to comedy. Start thinking of ways to make everyday situations funny. Girls want to know that you take your life seriously and you’re sure of yourself in every way, but they don’t want a stone wall. They want you to be responsive and light hearted.

Again, this goes back to primitive instincts. To girls, a sense of humor is a sign that you can bounce back from defeat and you don’t let failure drag you down. You know how to make light of things and keep yourself happy, and you’ll be able to keep her happy with your positive attitude.

Honestly, this is just the tip of the iceberg. I haven’t even mentioned the real tricks to getting girls going crazy to get to know you (yes, it’s true, you can make girls crazy for you with just a few simple techniques.) If you want to really learn the tricks to becoming a girl magnet, get this course: Double Your Dating. It’s pretty much the best course available for learning the real, honest, proven techniques to get girls falling over themselves trying to date you. I’ve read a few books from supposed dating ‘gurus’ and none of them come close to this course. I learned more from Double Your Dating than anything else in my life besides experience itself.

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I ended up telling my girlfriend that I bought a course to help me learn how to be successful with internet dating and she laughed. She doesn’t care because we’re in love and I haven’t logged into my dating sites since we started dating full time. But honestly, if you have a couple dating profiles and you’re not dating, you’re doing it wrong. You need to either get this course and do everything this guy tells you to do, or just delete your profiles and start meeting girls another way. Guys, internet dating is ridiculously easy. You can meet tons of cool girls (and some not so cool girls) and you’ll probably find a serious girlfriend in the next few months if you take this guy’s advice. It’s not rocket science.